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How to Be Enough… and Know It

Being enough in a world that seems to always want more. When your sense of “I am enough” gets threatened, most of us don’t calmly consult our values and carry on like enlightened woodland creatures. We react. We prove. We explain. We overwork. We compare. We defend. We people-please. We withdraw. We get louder. WeContinue reading “How to Be Enough… and Know It”

Pain Does Not Excuse What We Do With Power

People carry history. So do families, communities, countries and cultures. We carry what has happened to us. We carry fear, loss, betrayal and trauma, sometimes for generations, and all of that matters. But there is another question we don’t ask nearly enough: What happens when the person who has been hurt becomes the person withContinue reading “Pain Does Not Excuse What We Do With Power”

Relationships and Growth-Inspired Communication

I am trying to communicate something in these posts by speaking my truths. I believe my truth is important because it meshes with other’s truths when I get down and dirty and communicate one on one. Why doesn’t everyone communicate this way? Share ideas about important topics? Most importantly, why don’t we communicate our needs?Continue reading “Relationships and Growth-Inspired Communication”

Love: Understanding What You’re Giving and Expecting to Receive.

Let’s go back to the beginning of our lives again…to birth. The love we receive will have an influence over the love we learn to give, don’t you think? We aren’t born with an innate desire to love; we learn from what we receive in our early years. How was love modeled for us whenContinue reading “Love: Understanding What You’re Giving and Expecting to Receive.”

Navigating Relationships…The Velveteen Rabbit

Navigating relationships while stuck in any of these Trauma-informed Responses can be marked by Trouble–with a capital T. I’m working on resolving my trauma and becoming a more informed and aware participant in my own relationships. Since I don’t know other people’s trauma, I can only speak from my own, so I will go there,Continue reading “Navigating Relationships…The Velveteen Rabbit”

In Relationship With Others…The Struggle is Real

I want to write. I want to share ideas. The goal is not to impose but to question. It is not to judge but to explore curiously–everything. What am I exploring? Well, life, and all of its facets–relationships, love, politics, religions, education, play, work, illness, community and whatever else comes up. So, I began thisContinue reading “In Relationship With Others…The Struggle is Real”

Hooking Up with All of Me

Why bother going deep inside to those lonely, beaten, threadbare parts? Isn’t it better to leave well-enough alone? Bury them? Ignore them? Yes, we know they’re there, but why stir up the pain? Some people seem to be afraid of becoming overwhelmed; others, men especially, speak of these parts as though they are weak andContinue reading “Hooking Up with All of Me”

Welcoming, Loving and Trusting my Inner System

Once I was able to access my Self, my true essence (the topic of my last blog, “In Relationship with My SELF”), I was able to respond to the hurt and damaged parts of my inner system. Yes, these are the parts we often try to cut off and out. We bury them, consider themContinue reading “Welcoming, Loving and Trusting my Inner System”