Honesty (Our Truth) and Boundaries

Writing is something I not only want to do, but a venture I am driven towards. Authenticity also embodies me in this way. Honesty is directly related to authenticity, so how do I write honestly without putting myself too far out there? I sense, at least at this time in my life, that I need to set boundaries with my blogging. How does one go about setting boundaries and being honest at the same time? I mean, I don’t want to drag people around the whole of my psyche, but I do want to deliver meaningful material that others can relate to.

It takes immense courage to speak honestly and to set boundaries. Personally, I find myself lacking in both of these courageous acts. Maybe my parameters around honesty and boundaries need to be better defined. I don’t want to deliver either one in a harsh or critical way, but in a gentle and healthy manner. Honesty is something I had always veered away from because I was afraid of hurting someone’s feelings or losing friends, and my boundaries have been either fluid and transparent or strict and solid. For me, there is less of a happy medium. But, I’m trying to change that.

Over the past couple of years, I have been working hard to correct my all or nothing thinking by trying to develop healthy boundaries while speaking my truth. It is most certainly not an easy task but, I believe, it is a critical step towards authenticity. In my opinion, having healthy boundaries and being honest are the cornerstones of all successful relationships. Who doesn’t want this? Well, we don’t want successful relationships with everyone who comes into our lives especially when speaking with the general public, as I do in my blogs. So I have to share what feels safe and hold some personal information sacred. I don’t think this is being dishonest in any way. In fact, it is a good boundary to negotiate. I also believe that adjusting boundaries is done with everyone. Learning who gets to know us really well is a journey we navigate on a daily basis and often this isn’t an easy task. Sometimes trial and error come into play. Setting boundaries and authenticity are navigated and sometimes fail. We learn from this and try again. How many times do we try? As many as it takes if one wants to be truly happy, but that discussion is for another day.

Your thoughts or feelings? Agree/disagree? Any insights to share?

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