Emotional Laundry: the Truth Beneath the Grime

No one teaches us how to feel. Not the real way. We’re spit out into the world like emotional little androids—screaming, blinking, “Hello, world?”—and expected to function. Expected to swallow grief like vitamins and stack trauma like it’s laundry. And it is always laundry day. Emotions don’t go away. They wait. Like socks in theContinue reading “Emotional Laundry: the Truth Beneath the Grime”

Relationships and Growth-Inspired Communication

I am trying to communicate something in these posts by speaking my truths. I believe my truth is important because it meshes with other’s truths when I get down and dirty and communicate one on one. Why doesn’t everyone communicate this way? Share ideas about important topics? Most importantly, why don’t we communicate our needs?Continue reading “Relationships and Growth-Inspired Communication”

Love: Understanding What You’re Giving and Expecting to Receive.

Let’s go back to the beginning of our lives again…to birth. The love we receive will have an influence over the love we learn to give, don’t you think? We aren’t born with an innate desire to love; we learn from what we receive in our early years. How was love modeled for us whenContinue reading “Love: Understanding What You’re Giving and Expecting to Receive.”

Navigating Relationships…The Velveteen Rabbit

Navigating relationships while stuck in any of these Trauma-informed Responses can be marked by Trouble–with a capital T. I’m working on resolving my trauma and becoming a more informed and aware participant in my own relationships. Since I don’t know other people’s trauma, I can only speak from my own, so I will go there,Continue reading “Navigating Relationships…The Velveteen Rabbit”

In Relationship With Others…The Struggle is Real

I want to write. I want to share ideas. The goal is not to impose but to question. It is not to judge but to explore curiously–everything. What am I exploring? Well, life, and all of its facets–relationships, love, politics, religions, education, play, work, illness, community and whatever else comes up. So, I began thisContinue reading “In Relationship With Others…The Struggle is Real”

Hooking Up with All of Me

Why bother going deep inside to those lonely, beaten, threadbare parts? Isn’t it better to leave well-enough alone? Bury them? Ignore them? Yes, we know they’re there, but why stir up the pain? Some people seem to be afraid of becoming overwhelmed; others, men especially, speak of these parts as though they are weak andContinue reading “Hooking Up with All of Me”

Self-Esteem Part 1

There are several facets to self-esteem. There is low, high and inflated self-esteem. As you might guess the esteem we most want to realize is high self-esteem. This allows us to speak freely about our thoughts and feelings while respecting the rights of others as well. If we have high self worth, we don’t worryContinue reading “Self-Esteem Part 1”